What are the 4 biggest challenges my clients, men and people, face?
Here are 3 stories to illustrate, with 4 pointers at the end:
Client Steve has a challenge with a boss who he doesn’t get on with, doesn’t like as a leader and thinks that he leaves a trail of destruction in the organisation. He has tried speaking to him, tried having heart to hearts and attempting to cover every angle but nothing is making a difference.
But now he has been offered a promotion with another organisation – it’s bigger, better, and potentially far more rewarding. He wants to leave with all parties bigger, stronger, and wiser.
But he is stuck. I ask him what a great question would be to ask him, to help him get unstuck. He laughs, because it is always the same – as a devout Christian, he asks, “what would Jesus do?” He chuckles as he knows the answer: be loving, forgiving, unexpectedly generous, compassion and non-judgmental. He can now leave, free, self-expressed and marching boldly to his next assignment. There is closure.
Client Matt’s challenge is that he has set himself a world-record in his discipline and age group and is facing doubts: his inner critic is playing havoc, telling him how useless he is and that he will never do it. The noise in his head is from the past: don’t quit, like you did when you didn’t follow through on your swimming and rugby career. It’s the reason this has so much meaning for him. When prompted for the solutions he knows: follow the plan and stay in the moment. It’s all there is. He is on track for the big day on Saturday. He may break the record, but having fun is the key.
Client Roger’s challenge – we worked together 12 years ago and lost touch – is that he wants his Mojo back; he wants power in his life, to put to bed loose ends, a marriage breakup and a dying business, his retirement plan, which was decimated by Covid. In two short months he is back at the gym, taken the decision to close the business of 12 years and has taken responsibility for what went wrong in his relationship. He is freed up and going places and is on day 50 of doing 100 press ups per day, with the goal of doing it for 365 or more. He had not done a press up in years.
Can you see consistent themes in these 4 people? What are the common denominators?
I have been working and studying the findings, of what men’s biggest ‘Mojo Stealers’ are, and I recently had a brainwave: Look to The Four Agreements. It’s a great book by Don Miguel Ruiz, that advises following the following the Four Agreements for living a great life:
- Be impeccable with your word.
- Don’t take anything personally.
- Don’t make assumptions.
- Always do your best.
Can you see which of these (broken) agreements apply, above, and how they are fixed, by keeping to the agreements?
How about you, in your life? Click here for more info on the Four Agreements: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Four_Agreements
If you’re interested in getting your Mojo back, please be in touch or at least why don’t you click on this link and find out what’s your Mojo-Meter Rating is?
P.S. Find out more about what I do and how I can help with the following offerings
- Information on my individual and group Mojo Coaching
- Get your Mojo Back – A 2-day Course in the forest where you will access the magical power of your Mojo.
- The Interactive Digital and in-person Mojo Dojo Course.
- Attend my monthly 90-minute Mojo Storytelling where you’ll discover the transformative effect of your stories.